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Saying "No" to a Blow Job
Here is a raw & WoW excerpt from Allie Hoffman's substack about her ongoing process of sexual exploration: "Sometime long ago, I...
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Psychedelics & EMDR
We love the transcendent opportunities of psychedelics, the profound shifts in perspective, the deeply felt sense of belonging and...
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Expressing Your Needs
You know the Five Love Languages, right? The idea is that we each give and receive love in different ways and that relationships can be...
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To Be a More Artful & Successful Lover
"Good Questions to ask as You Work to Become a More Artful and Successful Lover: * What qualities do you look for in a lover that you...
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Positive Energy
Never underestimate the connection between the brain and body! Physical pain, as well as psychological blocks, can be improved by...
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How Much Can I Change My Partner?
"Aren't people supposed to evolve and change and make requests of each other to bend and grow and expand?" - Taffy Brodesser-Akner,...
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Routine is More Dangerous Than Adventure
"Routine is more dangerous than adventure. Routine is killing us, dulling people’s sense of curiosity and purpose and wonder, leaving us...
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Sexological Bodywork
We’ve spoken here about the difference between Bottom-Up Processing and Top-Down Processing. It's the difference between coming at things...
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Need for Control
I’ve been wrestling with that part of myself that needs to control everything. Which leads me to thinking about .. Why I can never leave...
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