Saying "No" to a Blow Job

Here is a raw & WoW excerpt from Allie Hoffman's substack about her ongoing process of sexual exploration:

"Sometime long ago, I downloaded a code that male desire + satisfaction were my responsibility.

I move thru the world with a fierce desire to be chosen, desired and wanted;

I continue to have to ‘learn’ my sexuality, and its expression: it can feel like a force that – when not thoughtfully directed – spews and sputters;

I say all I want is to tell the truth – and at key moments – I sublimate the truth for being ‘agreeable’;

I make my story of someone else’s experience, more important than my own;

And perhaps the most scary: when it comes to my pleasure and my desires and my sexuality - I (still) really struggle to know what I want and I struggle even more to summon the words to express it all."

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🫥 It's frightening how relatable this is and I think Allie has done an incredible job giving it words.

➡️ Please check out The Feels, her IRL dating experience inspired and informed by a somatic lens. It is a great alternative to the apps and a new way to explore the dating world.

🫶 In my opinion, Allie is standing out in this overly saturated IG psycho-spiritual world by talking about things in a bold, fresh and unique way.

💙 She is inspiring me and I hope you catch her feels too!

@catchthefeelsirl

@alliehoffman

📷: @jensingvarsson